tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post4037520828750020445..comments2023-06-13T09:59:18.659-04:00Comments on The Slapdash Godliness of a Good Girl: Wish Me Luck: I May Be Coming Out TodaySlapdashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-47020242126413698302007-12-10T19:38:00.000-05:002007-12-10T19:38:00.000-05:00Well I am glad that you did not get the obnoxious ...Well I am glad that you did not get the obnoxious christian reponse. there are many of us that know there is more than what the church has to offer. But outside of the church, what info is there? Well, there is some. I will not push anything on you, but give you some options. If you look into the, fine, if you don't, fine. It is up to you. <BR/><BR/>There is a book about the situation you and I find ourselves in. It is called "So you don't want to go to church anymore." It is downloadable for free at <A HREF="http://www.jakecolsen.com/contents.html" REL="nofollow">Jake Colsen dot com.</A> Or it is available at amazon. it is not long, and is an easy read. I got through it in about four hours. If it helps great, if it doesn't, that's the way it goes sometimes.Natehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11286219824281974297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-42840972421745023562007-12-10T16:20:00.000-05:002007-12-10T16:20:00.000-05:00Hi Nate -It went fine, after all. I kind of did as...Hi Nate -<BR/><BR/>It went fine, after all. I kind of did as I expected I would do, which is try to avoid the topic, not lie but not elaborate if asked, and change the subject ASAP.<BR/><BR/>I wish I had more guts than that, but that's what happened. To her credit, my friend didn't pry or probe too much - she asked where I was going to church these days (not going to church) and asked whether my boyfriend is a Christian (no, sort of as atheist as they come). But my guess is that she didn't want a confrontation as much as I didn't want one... so she probably took what she learned back home, and is now praying for me.<BR/><BR/>Which is fine with me; I don't really mind if people pray. I figure that while it probably won't help, it won't hurt either.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for asking!Slapdashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-22979071372846270682007-12-06T23:49:00.000-05:002007-12-06T23:49:00.000-05:00How did your coming out go?How did your coming out go?Natehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11286219824281974297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-64958294565165395902007-11-20T09:00:00.000-05:002007-11-20T09:00:00.000-05:00what are you searching for?what does GOD have to b...what are you searching for?<BR/>what does GOD have to be in order for it to be GOD?<BR/><BR/>sometimes (and I am guilty of this) we can box GOD in thinking He has to answer for us how we want Him to answer us in order for us to believe.<BR/><BR/>beckyrebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04739335275578339422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-10378411486349377922007-11-19T23:50:00.000-05:002007-11-19T23:50:00.000-05:00Hey Slapdash,Got here from Jon Peres blog somethin...Hey Slapdash,<BR/>Got here from Jon Peres blog something else, that used to be exfoliations. Here is a statement that I made about the nature of God. It is something that many people can not assimilate into their own lives. <BR/><BR/>"I love theorizing about what God is like and trying to understand him. The only assuarance we have about God from the bible though, is that what ever we think, we are going to be wrong. You know why I love that? Of course you don't, I haven't told you. Because if we knew exactly who God was, belief wouldn't be necessary. Because we would have fact. No faith. Interesting. Definition destroys the thing most necessary, our faith."<BR/><BR/>If you need proof before you have faith, you will never get proof. Faith is a "pay it forward" action. Without faith, no answers to prayers. Without answers to prayers, no faith. Catch 22.<BR/><BR/>Also, my proof is here:<BR/>http://myfaithdefined.blogspot.com/2006/12/conscience-and-will-of-god.html<BR/><BR/>Sorry to have taken up so much of your time. But if you would like to engage in some heretical conversations expounding on those things churchs won't talk about, come around the neighborhood. We all are willing to roll around in the spiritual mud and find out what we can about those hard questions.<BR/><BR/>LIC,<BR/>NateNatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11286219824281974297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-68676213899204488872007-11-16T20:18:00.000-05:002007-11-16T20:18:00.000-05:00slapdash, I am glad your Christian friends are goo...slapdash, I am glad your Christian friends are good friends, and everything is going well. Depending on how close they are, your beliefs will ultimately need to be expressed. I have had mixed luck, some friends leaving me, and some trying to understand. Great News for you, slapdash!!<BR/><BR/>Evie, the way you are expressing your loss of faith is smart, I think. I did not announce my departure from the church with a banner and bullhorn either!! I just sort of .. slowly and quietly.... faded away.HeIsSailinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09154368305822276669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-20414552569985719622007-11-16T16:13:00.000-05:002007-11-16T16:13:00.000-05:00Slapdash, I'm glad your lunch went well. I haven't...Slapdash, I'm glad your lunch went well. I haven't "come out" to any of my Christian friends or family yet. I'm just sprinkling little hints of my discontent at this point. Oh, and I did quit the church choir this week, so I'm gradually curtailing my involvement in my church. Cowardly, I know. Still, it's all I'm comfortable with right now.Eviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00212038923735410573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-57591358589334610462007-11-16T13:59:00.000-05:002007-11-16T13:59:00.000-05:00Thanks qmonkey. I like your blog and plan to spend...Thanks qmonkey. I like your blog and plan to spend a bit more time over there reading up.<BR/><BR/>I'm just back from lunch with Janet, and I have to say, chalk up another one for the gracious Christian friends. It went much more smoothly than I thought it would. It did feel like the elephant in the room, but to her credit Janet only asked me a couple of questions on the spiritual end of things ("are you going to church these days?" "is your boyfriend a Christian?") but she didn't press it. I did as predicted, which was say as little as possible and then move on to a new topic.<BR/><BR/>It may not be my proudest moment in the sense that I wish I weren't so scared of sharing my truth (such as it is) with the Christians in my life. But I must give credit where credit is due: my friends so far are handling it much more graciously (and hands-off-edly) than I would have thought. It seems that the vitriol and judgment and assumptions I feared probably live more in the internet realm where nobody knows each other so it's easier to sling careless comments around.Slapdashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-59554903339235085252007-11-16T10:29:00.000-05:002007-11-16T10:29:00.000-05:00nice blog... its a bit step, and a couragous one.d...nice blog... its a bit step, and a couragous one.<BR/><BR/>dont wanna sound like micheal jackson! but you are not alone...<BR/><BR/>http://qmonkey.wordpress.com/2007/10/20/blessed-with-faith/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com