tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.comments2023-06-13T09:59:18.659-04:00The Slapdash Godliness of a Good GirlSlapdashhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comBlogger820125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-43212632669136167482014-02-15T17:41:59.152-05:002014-02-15T17:41:59.152-05:00I feel ya. It would be easier.I feel ya. It would be easier.Jonathan Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879604201720249095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-27002804234964118442013-12-19T10:37:21.475-05:002013-12-19T10:37:21.475-05:00Hi there, I was just reading up on a few of your p...Hi there, I was just reading up on a few of your posts and had quick question about your blog. I was hoping you could email me back when you get the chance, thanks!<br /> <br />EmilyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06705232961174394790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-20379376165086977362013-05-08T23:14:31.689-04:002013-05-08T23:14:31.689-04:00Hi jennypo!
Thanks for stopping by and for your
...Hi jennypo!<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by and for your <br />thoughts. :)<br /><br />You're right that stumbling and feeling adrift aren't unique to someone in my position. I certainly had phases like that even while a believer. It's more that I can imagine *some* Christians interpreting this iteration of it as the consequence of letting go of God. <br /><br />To be honest I still feel a sense of burnout with respect to asking the 'honest questions' - at least in terms of trying to make sense of the Christian version of god. <br /><br />I do feel as though I might need to find some grander narrative than what I have now (which is...nothing) and in that sense I may start asking questions to help me discover what that grander narrative might be. That feels very different, though, from the search I was on a few years ago - to find Truth. I care a lot less about Truth now...much more about finding something I can live with.Slapdashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-67432848644199495952013-05-07T14:27:46.678-04:002013-05-07T14:27:46.678-04:00The truth is, we all stumble and end up adrift. Do...The truth is, we all stumble and end up adrift. Do I believe the problem begins and ends with our relationship with, and perhaps concept of, God? Sure I do. But even believing in God, I've still ended up stagnant and not learning. Lots of Christians spend their whole lives there. <br />God is not waiting to zap you for asking honest questions. Maybe there are people who are eager to see you coming up with less than you went looking for, Slapdash, but they aren't the people who have what you want. I have had that sense of there being something more, and I don't regret spending all that it took to find it. <br />Maybe it is what you've left behind, and maybe it's not...still, your best chance to find it is to keep asking honest questions and refusing to settle for unsatisfying answers. I do hope that someday you live wild, filled with passion and conviction, and admittedly, I do think those come from knowing God, but I don't think you want to come "back", and I don't think you will find God by going back to where you used to be. <br />It's good to read your blog again.jennypohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08885906238155398438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-81888087277912408182011-02-09T16:58:27.492-05:002011-02-09T16:58:27.492-05:00Congratulations on getting married! I'm happy ...Congratulations on getting married! I'm happy that your cancer treatment turned out as well as it did.<br /><br />Yeah, the "thank God for answered prayers" thing cuts both ways. The other side of it is God must not have answered the prayers of the family and friends of all those folks who die of cancer every year.<br /><br />I'm with Dennett on this one: <a href="http://www.edge.org/3rd_culture/dennett06/dennett06_index.html" rel="nofollow">thank Goodness</a> you're alive and well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-76653770730905720662010-09-03T15:10:23.244-04:002010-09-03T15:10:23.244-04:00Hi there! I've been clicking around and arriv...Hi there! I've been clicking around and arrived at your "sex entry" post quite by accident. I related to it a lot, but since it was so old, didn't think I'd bother leaving a comment there. Thus, this off topic comment.<br /><br />I also grew up as a fundamentalist christian. As a result, I was 26 by the time I figured out that I wasn't interested in men. I'm currently living with my partner far away from my family, and nearly all ties with the church have been severed. It's a hard road away from the church, and hard to deal with religious parents. <br /><br />Congratulations on your engagement. I wish you all the best.grasshopperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13313753868030422097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-13259263606402883882010-08-09T08:43:29.435-04:002010-08-09T08:43:29.435-04:00Slapdash...good to hear your update! :-)
Best wi...Slapdash...good to hear your update! :-)<br /><br />Best wishes all around and I think Jonathan's recommendation is a good one. <br /><br />I too am sorry about your mom.<br /><br />(((hugs for you all))) as you go forward in your lives.Zoehttp://acomplicatedsalvationreborn.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-41676140000058564742010-08-07T14:50:18.993-04:002010-08-07T14:50:18.993-04:00Hey Slapdash! E Blogger is not letting me post vi...Hey Slapdash! E Blogger is not letting me post via open Id under wordpress, but it's me, notabarbie from "Blinders Off!"<br />Congrats on the engagement, my condolences in regard to your mom's health issue. Breast cancer sucks and I empathize with your dilemma in telling her about your impending "living in sin." <br /><br />It's really good to hear about where you are in your journey. I think it's a healthy place to be. I too find myself visiting the blogs, I used to frequent, less and less. I'm in a much stronger place now, although I feel the need to continue to write more for others now, and that feels good as well. I look forward to hearing how everything works out for you. Keep writing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-88665514345480927822010-07-27T12:14:32.712-04:002010-07-27T12:14:32.712-04:00Congrats, Slapdash! It's good to hear that you...Congrats, Slapdash! It's good to hear that you're in a good place.<br /><br />I have a book recommendation about how to navigate the waters of non-believing parenthood with grandparents who believe. Dale McGowan's <i><a href="http://www.worldcat.org/title/parenting-beyond-belief-on-raising-ethical-caring-kids-without-religion/oclc/76836062" rel="nofollow">Parenting Beyond Belief</a></i> has some of the most sensible advice I've ever heard. Have you heard of his book?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-71604986310612760602010-02-16T03:59:31.115-05:002010-02-16T03:59:31.115-05:00In my opinion satan or devil is a synonym of '...In my opinion satan or devil is a synonym of 'ego'. Ego is a built-in barrier, standing between us humans and God. If we should lack an ego we should know we're God and the game (living in a world of controversies) immediately would be over. Jesus in the destiny is seduced by his ego. When he defeats it, he becomes the Christ. A parallel of this is to be seen in Siddhartha’s development. Sitting under the Bodhi Tree he resists all the seductions of his ego and becomes free of it (enlightened). Since that moment he is called Gautama Buddha.<br />I consider christians to be schizoid. They worship JHWH, a jealous and revengeful God, and at the same time ‘The Father’, loving and caring, introduced by Jesus. Or has the former been healed by psychotherapy? <br />About the serpent (that wasn’t a serpent because only afterwards God condemned it to crawl) Adam & Eve lived in The Paradise (the domain of the Absolute). The tree of Good and Evil is a symbol of the relative world to which the first humans are to be exiled. The snake with its ‘double’ tongue may be such a symbol a well.Theo Gerritshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01355265325549290672noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-47806820913320286572010-01-15T06:09:01.942-05:002010-01-15T06:09:01.942-05:00Cool article as for me. I'd like to read somet...Cool article as for me. I'd like to read something more about this topic. Thanks for posting this information.<br />Joan Stepsen<br /><a href="http://altgeek.org/" rel="nofollow">Wise geek</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-77847354190780770722009-12-31T17:58:08.091-05:002009-12-31T17:58:08.091-05:00Slapdash, I think I got it... the reason you and y...Slapdash, I think I got it... the reason you and your boyfriend didn't get back together is because you got hung up on him. When we're pursuing God (or letting Him pursue us) we don't get caught up on anything really. We're moving so fast through life so happily that nothing else sticks. You don't need that guy. Seriously.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978611785114153566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-1878608656308351092009-11-27T09:40:59.378-05:002009-11-27T09:40:59.378-05:00I 26yo male, atheist.
To me virginity means only i...I 26yo male, atheist.<br />To me virginity means only inexperience, and I hope I will not end up sharing my life with a woman that has only me as sexual experience.<br />Why?<br />Because women that had more partners, know better what they want, and are able to make a better decision when selecting to commit to a men for the rest of their lives.<br />Through sex, a woman gets to know a lot about herself and her partner.<br />And the very same holds for men.<br /><br />I think you are following the right path: take it easy and just let it happen.<br /><br />You will probably be disappointed the first times, because enjoying it takes time and knowledge of oneself.<br /><br />Sex is just no big deal.<br /><br />All my best.spiritualatheisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08737971431817491493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-15814155847399230482009-11-06T13:32:31.182-05:002009-11-06T13:32:31.182-05:00Hi Laura, sure, link away. I haven't been acti...Hi Laura, sure, link away. I haven't been active on my blog for some months now, but am always glad to hear that the stuff I've put out there is of some interest or relevance to others. :)Slapdashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-53536185483897591222009-11-06T11:57:27.429-05:002009-11-06T11:57:27.429-05:00Slapdash, I just re-read your post. I read it when...Slapdash, I just re-read your post. I read it when you posted the link on my blog, and I thought I had commented, but I guess I didn't. Thanks for your honesty--the more people who speak up, the more objective information they can receive. ITA: if you want to be abstinent, that's fine, but that decision should not be based on fear. Do you care if I reference this in a post? I'll link it back here. <br /><br />(And Sarah, yes, Slapdash has actually commented on my blog. Thanks for the shoutout, though!)Laurahttp://redheadedskeptic.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-49612924110840035182009-11-04T00:23:36.626-05:002009-11-04T00:23:36.626-05:00Have you read Redheaded Skeptic's views on abs...Have you read Redheaded Skeptic's views on abstinence? Quite the story! <br /><br />http://redheadedskeptic.com/2009/09/24/the-virginity-fallacy/<br /><br />I am pretty sure she wrote one on "I Kissed Dating Goodbye", too.Sarahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-173075582595233002009-10-12T13:18:49.846-04:002009-10-12T13:18:49.846-04:00I love you.I love you.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978611785114153566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-56339997511123623722009-10-12T13:09:30.049-04:002009-10-12T13:09:30.049-04:00But, I'm sorry, I thought it was very interest...But, I'm sorry, I thought it was very interesting to find someone who's been there. And to see your conclusions to the matter.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978611785114153566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-65969995421379013222009-10-12T13:07:53.394-04:002009-10-12T13:07:53.394-04:00I'm going through this right now - except I ca...I'm going through this right now - except I can't stop trusting God. I can't stop fighting for my faith, because I know it was real. I know I experienced that intimacy with God. And I completely understand praying for reconciliation... God gave me an open door to pull him back to me, but I became afraid for some reason and lost my chance. So now I can't feel the love of God, I don't have a conscience or the Spirit's guidance anymore, and I know it's because I was chasing him instead of leaving it to God to change his heart. I think we're like believers Paul talks about in Hebrews 6. We knew God for sure at one time. Now... without that purifying and beautiful spiritual romance... how can we be made salty again?<br />There is nothing left for us but judgment. :( That's not even depressing and I'm not trying to condemn anyone. That's just what the Word says. I've been trying to look up all sorts of views on that section about apostates, but when I try to pray there's just no life anymore. I feel like the walking dead.<br />The guy who left me to follow God is falling in love with this other woman, and I can see them getting Married and having a kid in two years.<br />Unbelievable.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978611785114153566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-6063844105211269182009-05-25T11:59:30.977-04:002009-05-25T11:59:30.977-04:00I think that religion makes sex out to be this mys...I think that religion makes sex out to be this mystical experience, a sacred bond between two people that love each other and thats entirely wrong and a very harmful attitude to have.<br /><br />Sex is how we reproduce, it feels great which is a good way to get us to do it more often, thats an evolutionary trait, those that enjoy sex do it more often, have more kids, dominate the genepool.<br /><br />I lost my virginity at 18, slept around a bit at university (not as much as i wanted to) and have to say i don't regret it at all. I've had several long term relationships and never cheated on anyone. The key is to realise that sex is fun, as long as you know what you are doing (such as using birth control/STD protection at all times and making sure that your partner is not thinking it means something it doesn't).<br /><br />Jennypo, forgive me for being skeptical (as is my nature) but saying that the god you know is better than sex, when you haven't had sex is like me saying i prefer pasta to steak when i've never had steak. And if god wants you to remain a virgin why on earth did he build you with a sex drive? Another failure of the intelligent design idea i guess.<br /><br />Marlies, it seems a shame your experience of sex was negative. I think the key to a healthy singletons sex life is being in control. Doing it because other people are doing it is never a good reason for anything (religion included). Have sex because you wnt to have sex, not because you feel you should.<br /><br />SocietyVs, people living together before marriage, thats such a good idea. It amazes me that so many people get married young, after a short courtship, having never lived together. Then they act surprised when it isn't all roses.<br /><br />Try before you buy should be the phrase of the day. If you move in with a guy/girl and they are lousy in bed and expect you to do all the housework, then marriage might not be such a hot idea. But how much worse to find out AFTER the wedding vows.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00736338251480507015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-5823517999605753752009-04-12T11:08:00.000-04:002009-04-12T11:08:00.000-04:00P.S. The above-mentioned link. The comments and s...P.S. The above-mentioned link. The comments and stories included are pretty amazing too. As good as the post... lots of raw honesty.Travellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897779343057165709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-16753851411601469412009-04-12T10:18:00.000-04:002009-04-12T10:18:00.000-04:00It's not precisely related to this post but kind o...It's not precisely related to this post but kind of... I wonder if you might like this post at "Internet Monk" site--He rants and seems angry, disgusted and frustrated, at a lot of things that I think you've seen as problems in church and christianity (me too). It's long, but refreshing--he admits a lot of the crap that goes on. http://www.internetmonk.com/archive/imonk-101-when-i-am-weak-why-we-must-embrace-our-brokenness-and-never-be-good-christians#more-3046Travellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897779343057165709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-60063150895189552892009-04-01T23:10:00.000-04:002009-04-01T23:10:00.000-04:00Hi Jennypo,There may not be much more online than ...Hi Jennypo,<BR/><BR/>There may not be much more online than that... did you find the page for it on PBS?<BR/><BR/>http://www.pbs.org/independentlens/arusipersianwedding/<BR/><BR/>I'll ask my friend if there are plans to release it online or on DVD.Slapdashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09175742547306567984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-26584273078429172492009-04-01T00:43:00.000-04:002009-04-01T00:43:00.000-04:00I haven't been able to locate this online, (except...I haven't been able to locate this online, (except 4 clips and a trailer on googlevideo), and I don't have a TV. If you come across it anywhere on the web, please let me know - I'd LOVE to watch it.jennypohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08885906238155398438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30932616.post-55000737287905737092009-03-28T11:25:00.000-04:002009-03-28T11:25:00.000-04:00Haha, I know those thought processes. Having a "pu...Haha, I know those thought processes. Having a "purpose driven" view of the universe caused so much heart-ache for me. All the events in life I thought were "God's will" and ended up imploding.<BR/><BR/>And then there are those events that happen now that if I were still a Christian I would take as "signs" that it was God's will... but I don't believe in Him anymore. Ironic?<BR/><BR/>Yeah, those are the things that make me go hmmm... too!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com