For years and years and years, I believed that marrying a nonbeliever was sinful - “do not be unequally yoked” and all that. So for years and years and years, my first dating requirement was that the guy be a believer.
Today, I would probably be classified as the kind of lukewarm/backslidden/cultural Christian (or heretic!) that a good Christian man would be cautioned to avoid. This is actually fine with me, because I would certainly not be happy married to a conservative or orthodox Christian. I wouldn’t enjoy dating such a man, either.
So I have started wondering what a person’s faith struggles do to their relationships, and the kinds of qualities they want or need in a mate. To that end, I have a couple of specific questions for the skeptics and de-converted out there:
1. If you are married to a Christian and you are now skeptical/agnostic/atheist: how has it affected your marriage? What does your mate think?
2. If you are single and skeptical/agnostic/atheist, how has it affected what you look for in a mate? Do you need someone who can relate to your Christian past? Do you want someone sympathetic, at all, to Christianity?
Other observations or experiences are, of course, welcome.